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The Essential Role of a Birth Partner: Supporting Your Loved One Through Labor and Delivery!

Updated: Jun 13, 2023

Congrats on your upcoming birth! Having a birth partner can be a great source of comfort and support during labor and delivery. The essential role of a birth partner can be a rewarding experience, and your presence will be greatly appreciated!

One of the considerations we often overlook, due to the impending arrival of the new baby, is the role of the birth partner, which can be your life partner, family member, or close friend. So, what can you do to support your birth partner before the baby arrives?

There is much you can do, here are some tips to help make sure your partner is as prepared and ready as possible:

  • Learn as much as possible before the big day – your partner should attend prenatal classes with you and read up on the signs and stages of labor.

  • Make sure you both have a clear understanding of your birth plan and any preferences you may have for the birth.

  • Talk about any fears or worries your partner may have about the birth.

  • Put together a support kit for your partner to bring to the hospital – this could include snacks, drinks, music, a change of clothes, a pillow, money, and any other comfort items.

  • Remind your partner to take care of themselves and get plenty of rest before the big day, if possible.

  • Make sure your partner knows the contact details for your doctor or midwife.

  • Have your partner practice different ways to help ease your discomfort during labor, such as massage, breathing exercises, or changing positions or discuss what role they will play.

  • Let your partner know that they can be as involved or as hands-off as you need them to be.

  • Above all, remind your partner that their primary role is to provide emotional support and reassurance during the labor and delivery.

What can the birth partner do, specifically , to prepare for their role? Well, first of all, congratulations! Secondly, the role of a birth partner is incredibly important to the birthing person. Here are some tips to help you prepare:

  • Be supportive of the birthing person. Offer reassurance and be there to listen when she needs you.

  • Research the birthing process and labor support techniques.

  • Be aware of your own comfort level and what you can handle.

  • Be prepared to help the birthing person with physical comfort measures, such as massage, counter pressure, and breathing techniques.

  • Put together a birth bag ahead of time with items that might be needed for labor, such as snacks, water, extra clothing, and a camera.

  • Be willing to take on whatever role is necessary, whether that means running errands, making phone calls, or just being present.

  • Be flexible and patient with the birthing person.

  • Know when to step back and let the professionals do their job.

  • Understand that the birthing process can be long and unpredictable, and be prepared to be there for the long haul.

Good luck and best wishes as you embark on this new journey into parenthood!

Birth & Postpartum Doula Fort Collins Colorado


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